“Don’t ever be impressed with goal setting; be impressed with goal getting. Reaching new goals and moving to a higher level of performance always requires change, and change feels awkward. But take comfort in the knowledge that if a change doesn’t feel uncomfortable, then it’s probably not really a change.” John Maxwell
I’m a huge goal setter. I believe in knowing where one is going because if you don’t how will you know when you get there. Setting goals provides you with direction for your life. It’s like setting out on a trip and not having a destination. How will you know if your going in the right direction?
So, each year I make out a list of goals for the next year.
- I share my goals with others. Much harder to abandon when many others know about it.
- I write them down. Writing them down makes them real.
- I post them where I can see them everyday. (Mine go on the bathroom mirror).
- Track the progress.
- If it is a big goal, then I will make small step goals to track the progress.
- When you accomplish the goal, share it with others and celebrate!!
So, here are my goals for next year. I invite you to hold me accountable and ask how well I am doing in accomplishing them.
- Lose weight. I’m now at 189 and my goal is to reach 179 by June. This would be 2 pounds/month.
- Lower my cholesterol. Don’t know the exact numbers but will be talking with my doctor to set the numerical goal.
- Follow our family budget.
- Exercise 5 times per week. Walk 30 minutes 3 times per week in January, 45 minutes in February 4 times/week, 1 hour in March 5 times/week. 10,000 steps/day (Jan-Feb); 15,000 steps (March and April); 20,000 steps/day in May and June).
- Weekend camping in camper 1 weekend/month from March to October.
- Read 8 novels and 8 books that are Spiritual, Self-Improvement, or Leadership.
- Hike Vicksburg National Battlefield.
- Plan and date a family trip to the Grand Canyon for 2013.
- Attend 1 John Maxwell event.
- Achieve Basic credentialing with ICPC (Police Chaplain)
These are my personal goals. I will be setting additional goals that will cover Church and Ministry.
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Over the last several months, the leadership at Union has been asking the following question: “What do we do well?” This is a very important question as we are making the next steps in our growth. But what exactly does this mean? It means”
- We are going to determine what we do well. What is it we are good at?
- We do we not do well? What are we not good at?
- We’re going to stop doing the things we don’t do well and
- We’re going to focus our energy, time, money, efforts, resources on what we already do well and try to take these to the next level of good.
John Maxwell says “Don’t focus on the things your not good at! Why, because you aren’t any good at them.”
Derrick Jeter is one of the best hitters all time in baseball. Guess what? Jeter doesn’t spend any time in the bullpen working on his pitching. Why? It’s not what he is good at. He could spend hours and hours trying to be a good pitcher but never achieve even “good” major league pitching status. If he were to spend all that time trying to become a pitcher, it would take it’s toll on what he is really good at…hitting.
So many churches today are trying to become good at what they are not good at and they are doing it while sacrificing the ministries they do well. Instead, churches should be focusing on the ministries they are already good at and taking them to the next level.
Maxwell suggest that we have been taught the following: Someone who gets an A in math and a C in English should study English more. Maxwell instead teaches that the student should concentrate and become better in math. That person has a “Math Mind.”
I’ve also been told if on a scale of 1-10, a person will never be able to increase their skill more than three points. So, if you are a 6 skill level, you can reach a 9. However, if you are a 3 skill level in an area, you will never increase more than a 6.
What does all this mean for churches?
- It could mean cutting out ministries that have been going on for years, but are not productive and are being sustained because we have been doing them for years.
- It means finding out what your strengths are and weaknesses are. (these by the way, can be very difficult answers to face.)
- Taking a look at the churches talents and using them to their fullest potential.
- It will mean growth. Both spiritually and physically.
- It will mean less division because the churches will know what their vision. (Where there is no VISION, there will be DIVISION)
This video really focuses on the reasoning for most of the recent changes at Union. Please take 2 minutes to watch this video.
Perhaps a better question is, “What are you really good at?”
via John Maxwell: Stop Working on Your Weaknesses.
I’m currently reading Be a People Person by John Maxwell. I highly recommend it. Here is a good nugget of info:
- The Least Important Word: I (gets the least amount done.)
- The Most important word: We (gets the most amount done.)
- The 2 most important words: Thank You
- The 3 most important words: All is Forgiven
- The 4 most important words: What is your opinion?
- The 5 most important words: You did a good job.
- The six most important words: I want to know you better.
“In life, you are either going to see people as your adversaries or as your assets. If they are adversaries, you will be continually sparring with them, trying to defend your position. If you see people as assets, you will help them see their potential, and you will be come allies in making the most of each other. The happiest day of your life will be the day when you realize “we” really is the most important word in the English language.”
I keep a list in my office to remind me of leadership traits which I want to remember and practice. I have gotten these from some of my favorite leadership people including John Maxwell and Andy Stanley. There are as follows:
- Leaders become insulated and Isolated…AND THEY LIKE IT
- Resist the urge to lead every meeting you attend.
- A good leader wants the best thinkers and most strategic people around the table with them.
- What and who you listen to will determine what you do.
- Leaders never outgrow the need to change.
- Don’t buy into the notion that mistakes can be avoided, THEY CAN’T.
- It doesn’t matter how long or how hard you’ve worked if it doesn’t accomplish what needs to be done.
- Coming together is a beginning and staying together is progress but only when teams sweat together do they find SUCCESS.
- Teamwork is at the heart of GREAT achievement.
- BECOME PRE-OCCUPIED WITH WHO YOU HAVEN’T REACHED AS OPPOSED TO THOSE YOU WANT TO KEEP.
One of the most influential people in my life (Janelle McComb) had so many words of wisdom that she would share. One of my favorites is/was “Money can’t buy a friend or pay for the loss of one.” This is so true and I have been blessed to have many friends in my life who continue to have such an impact on who I am as a person. There are friends in my life that I would not take all the money in the world for and all the money could not replace our friendship because they like me for who I am and not for any other reason. They are the ones who know when something is wrong in my life and want to be there. They are the ones who celebrate the good times and the cry with you during the rough times.
Another one of my favorite sayings is “The person you will be in 5 years is greatly determined by the friends you have, the books you read and what you watch on TV.” I try every day to share with my children the importance of choosing good friends. It’s not only important for the enjoyment that a friend brings (and that’s a big part of being friends) but the influence their going to have on your life should be instrumental in your decision to choose a person as a friend. They influence you whether you realize it or not. You often will develop their habits, and their values and morals will many times become yours as well.
So be careful, be intentional and be honest when choosing someone you’re going to honor with being called a friend.
This post I copied from John Maxwell’s blog and it is awesome!! I highly recommend you taking a look at his blog. I can be found by clicking here. Great Stuff.
Every major difficulty you face in life is a fork in the road. You choose which track you will head down, toward breakdown or breakthrough. Dick Biggs, a consultant who helps Fortune 500 companies improve profits and increase productivity, writes that all of us have unfair experiences; as a result, some people merely exist and adopt a “cease and desist” mentality. He continues,
One of the best teachers of persistence is your life’s critical turning points. Expect to experience 3-9 turning points or “significant changes” in your life. These transitions can be happy experiences … or unhappy times such as job losses, divorce, financial setbacks, health problems and the death of loved ones. Turning points can provide perspective, which is the ability to view major changes within the larger framework of your lifetime and let the healing power of time prevail. By learning from your turning points, you can grow at a deeper level within your career and life.
If you’ve been badly hurt, then start by acknowledging the pain and grieving any loss you may have experienced. Then forgive the people involved – including yourself, if needed. Doing that will help you move on. Just think, today may be your day to turn the hurts of your past into a breakthrough for the future.
Don’t allow anything from your personal history
to keep holding you hostage.
~ From The Maxwell Daily Reader, July 15